A CULTURE OF SHAME TO A CULTURE OF GRACE

HAS THE SOCIETY FAILED, IF NOT THEN WHO?
Months ago my campus friend and I decided to dig into the topic, who has failed? Considering so many youths in campus are living a life that can not be described by a parent it just doesn’t add up who is to be blamed. I remember hearing of a comment from a certain guy “There is a deadline for blaming parents” . In Beautiful Scars we deal with girls who got pregnant at a young age. Several times I have heard people question themselves why I would be interested in young mothers, girls who decided to go away from teachings. Girls who have chosen sex before marriage and wow!😀 Clearly from this, the society puts the blame on the girl.

Then I get to ask myself questions like, did the girl get herself pregnant? Does early pregnancy symbolize permanent failure? Has the girl lost it all? Can’t there be a second chance? Or maybe what everyone needs to ask themselves is this, She got pregnant, what next? What role can I play?Maybe it’s because there are so many women left to raise their children alone, or maybe it’s because there just haven’t been enough men teaching our boys how to be true men. These are just my thoughts.

I know these are the times you say to yourself, when I get a son I’ll teach him about being a man, I’ll let him that he should always take responsibility, right?
Think of it this way, you get a girl instead she grows up and ends up dating a boy who was raised by a young mother.( I know you’re probably reading this and wishing I don’t go there)

Allow me to call a spade a spade and not a big spoon baby, If your daughter gets pregnant who’s gonna be blamed? The boy who wasn’t taught how to love because the mom was raised with so much bitterness after bearing him? Or your daughter whose only mistake was to fall in love?
I was going through some research and I saw that approximately 6/10 of the girls today are going to be single mothers, this really disturbed me . That makes it 60% of the kids in the coming generation. Where is all this heading to?

Because we have now seen our patterns and subconscious beliefs come to life, we must decide what we will carry forward and what we will not.
Who has neglected their role really?
The girl who got pregnant has been subjected to shame, she has not been listened and I wonder what happened to second chances? Don’t they apply here anymore?? This takes me to “As they stood there asking him questions, he straightened himself up and said to them, “Whichever one of you has committed no sin may throw the first stone at her.”
John 8:7 GNB
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These are my two cents, a broken mwiko can still finish up cooking ugali; it’s not as useless. Dimming young mothers does not make the pretty girls who aborted saints, the society needs to wake up, we all need to. Let’s help people heal these wounds. The society to overcome the shame they feel, and the girls to start a fresh✨.