THE SECRET BEHIND SELF COMPASSION

Behind those who take gold, silver, bronze are those who never made it to the top. Beside those who made it to campus is a lot that never made it to any institution. Behind every football bet won is another lost.

Failure is one of the painful parts of life. Sometimes we win, sometimes we don’t. The feeling of disappointments engulfs one. The thought of letting one’s team down is devastating. Failing to score that goal, failing to get that extra point heartbreaking. How does one deal with this pain, how does one overcome the shame, how does one overcome failure?

Self-compassion is one of the most important traits, being able to sympathize with oneself. Attaching more value to oneself and understanding that beside the win, beside the victory, beside the loss is a beautiful human being who deserves love and value.

Getting over failure is not easy. As failure comes with harsh consequences such as loss of funding. Being dropped out of the team, being unable to proceed to the next level, having to retake a paper and the likes. However, recognizing that one is experiencing emotional difficulty is very important. After acknowledging that you are experiencing the pain, appreciate that others are also experiencing it.

Express understanding, kindness and concern over for oneself. Don’t concern yourself with the mistakes that have occurred for what has happened, has happened and cannot be changed, learn to deal with it through either writing, meditation, exercising. Be kind to yourself.
This will help you to overcome failure and set back. When you feel as if life is not fair to you, overcome the thought with self-kindness as these things happen. There will be a brighter tomorrow.