THE SECRET TO A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

We have no idea of what we hold till we loose it. Well, this is a saying that has been adversely used, correctly and incorrectly, and being that we are not in a grammar class so I’m not dwelling on the correct or incorrect use because for one reason, personally I am not sure if it’s going to apply in the context.

In our daily strives and life struggles,we have had a chance or two to grasp what would be of great value to us. However, some of us end up loosing the same thing that maybe we worked hard for, and coincidentally;it’s worth become more visible. It is at this moment that we realize that we have got it wrong. And so the justification of my opening sentence. So today, in the same context let’s talk about two things in a relationship and their worth generally to us; Faithfulness and Sex.


Being faithful in a relationship basically is being loyal, or trustworthy to someone. It is very important to note that one can only be loyal to one partner and as the wise men have it that one cannot serve two masters at the same time. Being faithful comes automatically, I suppose, owing to the fact that love is the unifying factors of the two souls. No relationship is healthy without , none, and if you happen to know one that is on the contrary then you should come for a trophy.

y is through the same faith that make people to withstand a lot of temptations and up hills in life, because the partners believe in each other that they can manage a better day the next day, the partners have total trust in each other and for this reason prolonged relationships that lead to better future is achievable.

Faithfulness comes with great responsibilities and sacrifices. First of all you’ll only be seeing one partner, and she or he will be included in everything that you do or think since there is the “us” factor in you. Faithfulness comes with total trust and loyalty as aforementioned . A lot. So trust me if you still want to keep things and issues to yourself and claim to be in a relationship then you are cheating yourself, if you still delete those text messages then you are just another real hypocrite, and if you still want to hit and run then you’ve not matured enough from the young boys games, that’s to say you’ve not matured up. So being faithful is worth in a relationship.


Sex. Getting intimate isn’t something to be taken so easily like ABC, one thing we tend to forget is that it doesn’t just involve the push and pull mechanism and exchange of genital fluids only, it is more of psychological, more of mental to be precise, sacred in the sense that up to now no one can really explain how babies form, we just know that it’s a fusion of male and female gametes, that’s all, no one can explain how the fusion creates a new being,how that metamorphosis occurs.

What I mean is that people always prepare themselves psychologically first before getting intimate. So the moment a dude makes love and dumps a lady, then moves on like nothing really happened is just one way of mentally torturing these women, and after that they start making unnecessary comments with the tagline #MenAreTrash.

The same way, a girl will sleep with every Tom, Dick and Harry and still feel okay not knowing that she is killing someone psychologically. Sex is holy,so holy that the holy books(Quran and The Bible) treasure it so much,we should make it worth in our relationships too. Let’s always remember that every time and treat it with some due respect.


So faithfulness and sex are some fundamentals in a relationship, they run hand in hand, so guys let’s be very careful and make a change if we really mean it.

Poet||Writer||Conservationist

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